He will show efforts, initiate, take you out, love to touch, hug, kiss and makeout with you, make you feel special, call/text and compliment you. That means they can't be emotionally available to anyone, no matter how great he/she is.If you have to ask, he's either giving you conflicting messages or he's not. Here are some of the reasons: So, will he ever be ready? He displayed every sign of emotional unavailability in the book, but he didn't want to lose me so he made us a couple 1.5 years after we met and married me a year later. If you find yourself in the situation where you're falling for Mr. It might have to do with childhood traumas or upbringing, or there are some other psychological damages that make them unable to connect with another person on a deeper level.This is the reality: IF he changes and that is a pretty big damn if, it won’t because you stuck at his side pushing your love on him and trying to extract the relationship that you want out of him.
It takes more than him changing for you to be happy and in believing this you place all of the responsibility on an external party for your happiness.
If he changes, he’ll have had to have had something really major happen that switches him from disconnected to connected. He’ll want something that reflects his connected, positive life, and that’s unlikely to be you.
Everyone has the capacity for change, but many people don’t because they either don’t believe that they have to change (stubborn), are unaware that they have to change (sometimes deluded), or they have no actual need to change.
Perhaps you shared a lot in common with him and underwent an exciting emotional experience while interacting with him.
You were sure that there was a promising beginning of a great relationship.