They were also asked to rate the physical attractiveness of other participants by looking at photos of them.
Then came the dates themselves, and after each three-minute hang, the participants rated them on how much they wanted to be friends with that person, and how much they’d like to pursue a short-term relationship — like a one-night stand, friends with benefits, or a booty call, dutifully described by authors as “arranging meetings purely for sex on an ad hoc basis” — or a long-term, honest to goodness relationship.
Then, as one does in Ancient Greece, he comes upon a still pond, sees how outrageously good-looking he is, and looks at his reflection until he metaphorically and literally dies of his vanity.
Psychology draws from this tale for the personality construct “narcissism,” which in its preclinical form speaks to self-centeredness and a need for validation; its extreme form, narcissistic personality disorder, denotes a total disregard for other people’s feelings and a prickly inability to handle But narcissists aren’t just attractive to themselves.
They are, at least superficially, attractive to other people; that’s why they’re overrepresented in fields where being at the center of attention is an asset, like entertainment, entrepreneurship, or politics. And as a new study of speed dating led by Emanuel Jauk of the University of Graz, in Austria, finds, people rate them as more attractive and moredateable. Why speed dating — isn’t that silly thing that only happens in romantic comedies?
You’ll be amazed at how much you learn about your spouse that you didn’t already know.
If you want to make it super simple, all you have to do is cut out the question cards.